The Traveling Book

Sometimes, it’s good just to have a light-hearted post. This one follows the adventures of my book, “7 Weeks to Reduce Anxiety” (Now renamed “The Anxiety Workbook) on its travels around the globe.

I have to say I’m a bit envious of the places that it has gone and is likely to still go. I must thank my relatives and people I’ve never even met for their generosity in snapping photos of the book in various locations.

If you have a copy of the book and would like to share a photo of it where you live, I would love to receive it. You can send that to submissions@aboutsocialanxiety.com.

South America

The first three photos below were taken by a friend of my aunt as they traveled around South America. The first two photos are at the Falkland Islands, and the third is at the Copacabana Hotel in Rio De Janeiro, Brazil.

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Niagara Falls, Ontario, Canada

This next photo was actually taken by me! I live just over an hour away from one of the natural wonders of the world, Niagara Falls. This photo is taken from the Canadian side looking out to the Horseshoe Falls. I was visiting the Falls with my parents and my children and it was actually a grey and rainy day—not really good for sightseeing. So we stopped the car briefly while I jumped out to take this picture. Fear of heights, anyone?

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Victoria, British Columbia, Canada

This photo was taken by my aunt in Victoria, BC. This was actually the first in the traveling book series of photos and inspired some of the others. It looks like a very calm and peaceful place to be.

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Playa Del Carmen, Mexico

This is the most recent photo! My aunt-in-law Martha took the book with her to Playa Del Carmen, Mexico. Have to say I am quite jealous of the warm weather they are having while we head into winter back here in Canada.

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Usefulness of Self-Help Books

Well, that’s it for now! If I receive more photos I will be sure to update this post. Remember, this is just in fun to show far a book can travel globally—and hopefully the impact it can have. Not everyone believes in self-help books, and some may even be afraid that using one may make them look “weak” or in the case of social anxiety, weird.

If self-help gets you down, think of it as self-improvement? The principles of cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness can help EVERYONE, regardless of whether you have social anxiety or not.

Learning how to recognize your thoughts, slow yourself down, be in the moment—this is what we all know we need to do. A book might not solve all your problems, but it may give you one, or two, or a few ideas on how to cope better. If so, then it’s done it’s job.

If you’d like a copy of my book, it is available on Amazon or in some bookstores. You could also visit your local library and ask whether they accept book suggestions. While the book is workbook-style and includes spaces to write your own thoughts, you could always use a notebook to record your answers.

Tips on Using Self-Help Workbooks (for Social Anxiety)

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If you’ve stepped inside a bookstore lately, you’ve probably noticed a proliferation of self-help titles. The list of things you can improve about yourself is literally endless—and it can be hard to know who to trust or whether any of these books will actually help.

In the case of social anxiety, self-help books hold a special significance, as they can be accessed by anyone regardless of your current fears. If you’re too afraid to pick up the phone to call your doctor, ordering a book from Amazon might feel like a smaller first step that you can take.

At the same time, there is a risk with self-help books that you expect too much. A book is never going to replace an interaction with a mental health professional. What it will do is provide knowledge upon which you can act.

A study published in 2008 in the journal Professional Psychology: Research and Practice examined 50 self-help books for anxiety and depression and rated books on four main qualities believed to reflect books that would help:

  • grounded in science, brings the knowledge of experts to you (e.g., cognitive-behavioral therapy)
  • realistic in their expectations (not promising a complete cure)
  • offered specific guidance (step-by-step instructions, user-friendly)
  • did no harm (did not provide false information)

The 10 top-rated books from that study included Dying of Embarrassment by Barbra Markway and The Shyness and Social Anxiety Workbook by Martin M. Antony.

What they found was that the best books (based on their criteria) had the following characteristics in addition to those listed above:

    • focused on a limited type of problem
    • were written by doctoral-level psychologists, often affiliated with academic institutions
    • offered a chance to monitor your progress
    • addressed relapse or setbacks
    • discussed co-existing disorders or problems
    • talked about when to seek professional help

Although that study touched on it briefly, I think one of the more important qualities of a good self-help book is that it is not overwhelming.

We are all busy, and it is often easier to keep doing what we are doing than to try to make a change. While self-help books are more convenient than visiting a therapist or life coach, if they are not put into practice, they are likely to have minimal effect. You need to apply the advice in the book to make progress.

I think there are two types of books that impede translating knowledge into action.

Those that provide too much information (overload) and those that provide no plan (lack direction).

Of course, it’s possible for a book to have both of these qualities—that would be the worst of all worlds.

When choosing a book, after you’ve narrowed it down to those that meet the above criteria (as best you can, based on reviews or referrals from others), try skimming through (in a bookstore if you can, or the library or online) and read a bit. All other things being equal (as described above), I’d choose the one that is easiest to read with the best action plan (often a workbook style). I’d also choose a book that you find inspiring.

Once you’ve chosen a book, how can you get the most out of it?

  • Keep a journal. Add your own thoughts and insights. This will bring the book to life for you.
  • Complete the exercises. This might seem obvious, but don’t jump ahead. Take the time to do any exercises in the book fully. Change involves thoughts, feelings, and actions all interacting. You might learn new things about yourself that you can use as you move forward in the book.
  • Take stock. At the end of each chapter or section, take stock and think about the impact of what you’ve done. Do you need to adjust or make changes?
  • Get an accountability partner. This could be a friend or family member, or even an online group. Meet once a week to discuss what you are reading.

In the Huffington Post article, “Why self-help books rarely work,” life coach and personal growth expert Matthew Jones writes “The book can change your perspective, but you must change your life.”

I’d like to relate an example from my personal life, not about social anxiety, but that shows how books can impart knowledge, but it is up to you to take action.

A couple of weeks ago, I was scrolling through Facebook and came across a video called “The Secret Reason We Eat Meat.” I was interested, so I started watching, but soon realized that the video was over 20 minutes long and I didn’t have time to finish all of it. It started out with Melanie Joy, a social psychologist, explaining the premise of what she terms “carnism,” or the ideology that creates a meat-eating society.

So I set the video aside to return later. Unbeknownst to me, it contained graphic videos of animal slaughterhouses midway through. Somehow, I managed to jump back into the video during one of these videos. It was as though I’d accidentally clicked on a slasher film—it really was that bad. Nervously I jumped ahead a bit and watched to the end. And then I read Dr. Joy’s book, Why We Love Dogs, Eat Pigs, and Wear Cows.

The book presented a logical argument regarding veganism and the secret ideology that promotes eating meat. It all made sense to me, from a logic standpoint. But if I had put that book down and went to eat a hamburger, would anything change? If I knew differently, but continued to do what I’ve always done, what was the point?

I hope that if you do pick up a self-help book, you will realize there is little point in just reading. You might gain knowledge, but you won’t change, and what you’ve learned will much more easily slip away.

If you find it hard, be accountable and then reward yourself in some way for taking action.

If you find it really hard, find a therapist to help you work through the book.

As for me, it’s been two weeks and I still haven’t eaten that hamburger.

Sources:

Huffington Post. Why self-help books rarely work.

Psychology Today. What you should look for in a self-help book.

Redding, R. E., Herbert, J. D., Forman, E. M., & Gaudiano, B. A. (2008). Popular self-help books for anxiety, depression, and trauma: How scientifically grounded and useful are theyProfessional Psychology: Research and Practice, 39(5), 537-545.

Wood, G. 3 top tips: How to get the most from a self-help book.